of such magnificent feeling as love, joy and happiness not always are. Often the love will wound and does not allow the person to develop harmoniously, the lover as though gets to vicious circle of which it is difficult to find way out. Meanwhile, exit is, only in order that to find it, it is necessary to work. How to be with love which hurts?
- First, congratulate yourself on what you are capable to love really. Means, you the person deep and ready to suffer for the sake of darling. It rather seldom meets presently. Sufferings of love do soul more sensitive. Even if with this specific person of the relation will not develop, you will be interesting to someone else who will estimate richness of your nature. Protect the ability to love and respect yourself for it.
- Secondly, the widespread recommendation to forget everything - not the best. The more you will try to forget, the more often the fact that you would like to erase from memory, will return. It is better not to provoke pain. Your pain is precious experience which you have endured and which can be very useful further. Do not renounce the past, the main thing – draw the correct conclusions. For example, if you very much want the family, abstain from the repeated relations with married men and married women (if the pain endured by you - is from there).
- Thirdly, it is necessary to wonder whether has pain of some benefit. For example, the love for the married man saves the woman from need to look for and build really responsible relations. The student or the student can write off the failures in study for unfortunate love. Actually such love allows them to distract from unpleasant duties and reflections. It is necessary to realize benefit and to make everything that to eliminate it and to take step to freedom. To be registered on dating site or to sit down for lessons.
- Fourthly, it is necessary to find for itself some occupation which will absorb that time which was taken earlier by reflections about love. For example, set the object to make to themselves beautiful athletic figure. Calculation of calories and efficiency of loading – business fascinating. For a start deceive yourself and tell that you do it for darling. And then you will be fond, and the opinion of the former partner will become unimportant, and beauty will remain that will facilitate search of the best partner in life.