Some men delay the offer for long time, at the same time really loving the women. Sometimes expectation of the girl drags on so that she begins to doubt gravity of feelings of the young man. Not always the delay is connected with lack of love, there can be also other reasons.
Why men do not want to marry
They are afraid to lose freedom. Even if the man at heart the homebody, he will hold all the same the freedom. If there is no stamp, it is possible to gather and leave, and after the wedding it will be necessary to get divorced, divide property and to deal with other legal issues.
They do not want to take the responsibility. Men like to live in loneliness and to be responsible only for themselves. But after marriage it should solve problems of the wife, then, perhaps, there will be a child and all life will change. He will be forced to refuse the habits, and sometimes to do what does not want to be done.
Fear of financial questions. If the girl dreams of magnificent and expensive wedding, and it cannot suit it, the man will postpone this day as long as possible. And after creation of family the expenses increase – it is necessary to look for the apartment, to buy furniture and household appliances, to provide the wife, and further and the child. Unwillingness to celebrate a wedding. Sometimes not finance nonpluses the man, and traditional ways of holding a wedding. The repayment of the bride, competitions, the host, need to communicate the whole day with relatives and to smile for the camera. And if the girl with enthusiasm tells about it, it will postpone the offer. Negative experience can play an important role too. If the man was already married and marriage collapsed, he can be afraid of repetition of history. They, most likely, at the beginning of the relations were happy and ready to long joint life too. Unpleasant memoirs prevent it to make the proposal. Fear that everything will change. It accepts your relations at this stage. You do not depend from each other, do not demand much, he does not feel pressure or any responsibility. And after the wedding everything can change: the girlfriend will turn into the whimsical wife, and romantic feelings will die away. Frightening stories of married friends. Family life of acquaintances can sometimes influence the decision of the guy. If he hears every day a story about the quarrelsome wife, lack of sex, constant quarrels and the catastrophic shortage of money, the man can decide not to marry. Look narrowly more attentively at friends of the gentleman and at their companions.
What should I do?
Talk to it. If expectation drags on for years and you already lose hope for the happy final of history, ask the man about the silence reasons. Only he will be able precisely to answer this question. You do not press on it, let's be uttered and quietly discuss all moments which frighten him. It is possible that after the open conversation he will make you the proposal.